I was in high school when Sex and the City premiered, and like many women of my generation and the generations that followed, that show taught me a lot about sex. I knew that gay men engaged in it, but I held on to some pretty old-school notions when it came to why straight women would do it. Whoever heard of Mrs. Up-the-Butt might reside. The experience was, for lack of a better word, awful. But on top of the physical discomfort, I also felt ashamed. It was humiliating that this was what he wanted and humiliating that I consented.
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I Genuinely Like Anal Sex—and I’m Tired of Feeling Bad About It
Anal sex can hurt, that much seems clear. But a new study of British teenagers also reveals a few aspects of this sexual activity that are perhaps more surprising. The researchers interviewed teens ages 16 to 18 from diverse backgrounds, and asked them about their perceptions of different sexual practices, as well as their own experiences. The results showed that most teens' anal sex experiences occurred in a relationship setting, but first experiences with anal sex were rarely under circumstances of mutual exploration of sexual pleasure. Instead, it was mainly men who pushed the women to try anal sex, and men said they felt expected to take this role.
In-depth interviews were conducted with 81 Black MSM ages 20—39 years who were purposively recruited from four townships. The semi-structured interviews addressed sexual behavior and identity, alcohol use, and safer sex. Pain during RAI was brought up by many participants without specific prompting from the interviewer. Analysis of the interview transcripts revealed that pain was a common feature of first RAI experiences but was not limited to first-time experiences.